We’re all familiar with the sexy model featured on the latest swim suit magazine that has looks to die for.  However, not everyone has those looks and fortunately, those looks are not necessary to be irresistible to men.  You may ask yourself, “How do I make myself irresistible to men?”  Well, here are some tried and true tips for you to learn how to be irresistible to men.

First of all, be kind.  Sounds simple, but many people have lost that art.  Yes, kindness is an art.  Men are actually somewhat shy creatures who are more likely to have their feelings hurt more than you realize, even though they may hide behind a tough exterior.  So, be genuinely kind when speaking with the opposite sex.  Avoid the cutting remarks and speak in a positive, uplifting manner to them and about others to them.  Note:  Men will take note of what you say about other folks behind their back and will think that you will do the same with them.  So Be Kind!

Second of all, have a good sense of humor.  Be willing to laugh at his jokes. Men need to feel that you appreciate their humor and their intellect, which is attached to their sense of humor.  However, don’t fake your laughter as men will instinctively pick up on that you are not “for real”.

Also, be willing to laugh at yourself. Men appreciate when you can laugh at yourself as it shows confidence in yourself.   We are not talking about denigrating yourself, but simply be able to laugh at yourself and acknowledge that you are human and sometimes do less than brilliant things.  Genuine self-confidence is attractive to men.

Third, Think Young!  Youthfulness is a state of mind and comes from a cheerful heart.  Don’t hold on to the past, or negative experiences, you have had or your friends my have had.   A cold and negative outlook & thought process will definitely throw cold water on any guy who is thinking about getting to know you better.  Think about the wonderful, joyful experiences you have had in your life and focus on the positive things in your life.  Men will definitely pick up on your positive energy.

Fourth, be aware of your body language.  Body language speaks louder than any words ever could.  When you are in the presence of someone you find attractive, work at keeping your body relaxed and upright in posture.  Another words, don’t slouch.  Have your shoulders back, keep your hips soft and relaxed and have a slight arch in your lower back. This will generate a positive energy and confidence as you move.  Smile and look the person in the eye when you speak with them.  Smiling and eye contact states that you are willing to engage them in conversation and that you find them to be of interest.

Fifth, Listen.  Do not feel that you have to be extremely witty in your conversation.  Listen to what they are saying and acknowledge their comments.  This does not mean that you have to agree with them on all points or “fix” their problems.  The ability to listen attentively is a tremendous gift you can bestow upon someone.

Sixth, don’t overly stress on your physical appearance.  Yes, being well groomed, clean and neat is important, but it is not the only factor.  What is crucial is your ability to truly communicate with each other.  Men naturally gravitate to someone who is truly present and focused on the person they are with.  Your ability to focus on what they are saying and not be zoning off thinking about what you are going to do tomorrow is extremely important.  He truly wants to know that you are “with” him.

How do you look out for signs a guy likes you? But before that, these six pointers will help you in learning how to be irresistible to men and be instrumental in having the man of your dreams step into your life.

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